I always imagined a romantic, passionate first encounter with sex

Some people just decide to wait until marriage before having sex for the first time. This decision may be made for a variety of reasons, including timing, nerves, or religious consideration. One thing is certain, having sex on your wedding night is anything from routine, whether it’s as enchanted as a double rainbow or unpleasant, it’s all a story for someday.

From time immemorial, a woman’s virginity has been her prized possession. Throughout history, we see cultures across the world placing a high value on a woman’s virginity.

Absolute celibacy until marriage has always been a contentious issue. Virgins have always been associated with some sort of virtue. Being a virgin may also be a turn-off, depending on who you ask. Some people don’t rate virginity that high.

Even though 56% of couples don’t want to put off having sex for so long, some do experience trauma and uncomfortable feelings afterward.

Let’s take a break from these fascinating tales of “our first night out”, and don’t forget to tell us about yours.

1. Jane (22 years old)

“It made me nervous. Who would have thought I’d save it until marriage? I originally thought I’d just wait until the right person came along. I was concerned since I knew his male organ was so little cus we have done many things in the past, like oral and hand stuff. However, I no longer care about size because our chemistry is what keeps us vibrant during sex and in our marriage. Before he even proposed, I insisted he got tested because he wasn’t a virgin. With time, it got better. We’re still getting to know each other’s bodies.

2. Felicita (24 years old)

” We had lots of coupling on our wedding night. My spouse lost his virginity when he was quite young and he had intercourse with several women, but I was a virgin before we got married. Sex was, I suppose, a letdown thing, I felt demoralized by my experience and uneasy knowing that he has wealth of prior knowledge. I’ve always been told that having sex on the first night will be uncomfortable, possibly painful but fun because you are both trying something new. Lovemaking wasn’t what I imagined it to be because we weren’t discovering anything new together. I had a lot of fears that it brought out, and I haven’t yet been able to get rid of them. The insecurity stemming from my husband having more experience than I do is still present”.

3. Betty ( 26- years old)

“After marriage, I had sex for the first time and it was terrifying and incredibly painful. We did the deed in the limo on the way to the airport because we were so eager to do it, which was a terrible choice. We had a second round in our honeymoon suite in Bora, Bora because the first one didn’t go well. It got challenging at times because my spouse wasn’t a virgin before marriage, but he had to manage. I had been trained to believe that waiting until marriage was vital for religious reasons. Since then, lovemaking has been amazing because I get to experience so many different things that I never had before. Our marriage has lasted for a year now and intimacy is still strong”.

4. Anna (21 years old)

” I thought if I could have sex before marriage, no one was gonna love me, so I chose to remain a virgin. My husband carried me into our hotel room the night before our wedding and placed me on the bed. The first portion came naturally to us because we have done so many other things. After some fantastic foreplay, he asked me if I was ready. I was eager to finish it, but to be completely honest, it was unexplainable in every aspect. It didn’t hurt too bad, but I felt too strange because I didn’t know how to move to make it pleasant, I felt awkward. My husband, who was also experiencing it for the first time, loved it. It took me about eight months to reach my peak”.

5 Amanda (28-years -old)

“After my wedding celebration, my ex-husband and I immediately headed to the hotel. When we imagined what might occur, we chucked. We just dimmed the lights and turned on some romantic music because we had no idea what foreplay was. We were unsure about where to place it and if its the proper way of doing the deed. Before we got it perfect, there was a lot of uncomfortable prodding. We simply performed one position, it was sloppy and he finished in about three minutes. He cried and kept questioning me if that was proper. The night of our wedding, my ex who was a virgin told me he married me because of sex. It taught me it is just a thing, and if I could do it again, I would have saved myself the stress and money.

6 Harley (23 years old)

“We had a short marriage, so we spent four days at the cabin we had rented for an hour. I went into it with so many hopes and worries. What if I messed up? Suppose it hurts? What if he likes it and I don’t? Though we both waited till marriage, we had already played second and third base. This made things somewhat less terrifying. It was comfortable to be around someone who shared my anxiety. Candles were lit, and the lights were darkened. I’ve always pictured a passionate and romantic, but it was humorous and awkward at the same time. If he hasn’t been so composed, I would have died of shame. The initial experience lasted for approximately 40 seconds. After that, we laughed together as we embraced in bed. We went again 12 more times over the following day. Each was a bit less agonizing, but at the final time, it began to feel pleasant.

Lovemaking shouldn’t be casual, speedy affair. It is for someone you love and want to spend the rest of your life with. It is a very potent representative of couples’ love. Imagine it as glue. After having intercourse with someone, you become emotionally and physically attached to them. If you break that bond, the glue remnants where the bond once existed are exposed scars.

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